how to be a seductress

This blog is going to get me into trouble. But I am going to write it anyway.

Why am I intentionally putting myself in hot water? I feel a responsibility to share my seduction secrets with other women. I am a belly dancer who celebrates her sexuality while dancing and in the bedroom. The dance has taught me many secrets of pleasure, technique and seduction.

Every magazine is filled with tips on beauty and even advice on acting and dressing sexier. However, I have yet to see an article that empowers women to enjoy being sexy for their own pleasure. I feel like a modern day version of the temples of the Kama Sutra, in which women passed on the Art and Science of Love to other women. I will take the heat because some women will benefit from what I have to say.

As much as our culture is obsessed with it, sex is still taboo. Sex is everywhere in TV, Movies and advertising, yet nothing is as threatening to both men and women than a woman who owns her sexual power. So much so that even my sisters in the belly dance community find me controversial because I believe there is nothing wrong with celebrating the intrinsically sexy aspect to the dance.

I was 24 when I discovered my power of being a seductress. I had the opportunity to travel throughout the Middle East being employed at nightclubs with 1-month residencies, performing 6 nights a week.  I had the days free to explore the city and absorb the culture. Traveling to foreign cities by myself was exhilarating, educational and terrifying.  I found it liberating to be in a location for a predetermined amount of time not knowing a soul and getting a fresh start a month later. Seeing the Middle East through the eyes of a blonde belly dancer was a fascinating experience. I was in ancient cities performing an ancient dance.

My sexual epiphany happened in Istanbul, Turkey. Something about the unique mix of Europe and Middle East culture, the weather, the hotel they set me up in and the gorgeous men brought out the seductress in me. This was my first taste of having several men pursuing me at once.  I was shocked to discover the extent to which men will go to “win” a woman. Truth is, I did very little to encourage their behavior. I wasn't having sex with them (sex before marriage is uncommon in Turkey) and hadn't even gone on dates with two men.  I was showered with gifts and since they knew there was competition, they started to get creative. One memorable gift was my url and designing a website for me. One guy gave me his car. However, his father, screaming at my balcony, awoke me that night. It appears it wasn’t his to give away.  One of my admirers told me that I scared him – because there was no hope for him to resist me – he would give me anything I wanted.

His fear was logical: in seduction, women hold all the cards.  He recently became my Facebook friend and sent me a virtual car, villa and diamond ring. I accepted them…how could I not?

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how to kiss, types of kisses, kissing step by step

by pyar

From the kiss of admiration to platonic kiss to a passionate kiss like you see in the movies, bringing your lips in contact with an important person else's is a sign of affection that most people enjoy.

But since there are many kinds of kisses to reflect the many level of liking you can have for an important person, it can be nerve-wracking!

Don't worry, though--this article will go over more than a few kinds of kisses, as well as when, and how, to give them.
Kissing Step by Step

Step 1

Face your partner (just as if you were departing to give them a peck like we learned above). Make sure your faces are somewhat close together--closer than you would be if you were just talking to a celebrity!

Step 2

Lean in slowly. Tilt your head to one side as you lean in. This is very significant in this kiss--otherwise you'll bump noses!

Step 3

Part your lips, but don't open your mouth like you're going to eat impressive. More like you were taking a drink from a bottle. This is done at the last second before your lips meet theirs. Don't open your mouth all the method down as you lean in to kiss them!

Step 4

Gently touch your lips to your cohorts. Your mouths will be a little diagonal to each other, or they can be almost at right angles.
Open your mouth a little more as your lips meet.

As you kiss, you may press a little harder (but not too hard!) if you'd like, and then you may prefer to go your head slightly side to side as you gradually kiss them again and again.

Remember to go slowly and soak in the fervor of this kiss!

Girls do a lot of talking about the first kiss.

Where will it be? What kind of kiss will it be? If you are young, and the girl is hyper, then you don't want to dissatisfy her with just a kiss on the cheek. Kiss her on the lips.

Draw back, smile at her. If she is respond positively, then go in again, this time using the mouth, opening the lips, and maybe addition some tongue.

Make sure the first kiss is in a special place - never in the movies. On a hill, on the stage in a abandoned theatre, by a fountain in a secluded park.
How to Kiss a Girl Physically

Kiss her like this for a few more times and leisurely move her towards you by grabbing her waist or her head and pulling her closer to you.

Once you do this, and you can sense that she likes what you are doing, you at the start go using your tongue gradually.

Type of Kiss

1. Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I in reality like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

2. Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

3. Eye Kiss - Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the way you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.

4. Foot Kiss - An erotic and idealistic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it!

To give a toe kiss by quietly suck the toes and then flippantly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

5. French Kiss - The kiss connecting the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass from side to side the mouth's breath in the swap across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

6. Hot and Cold Kiss - Lick your partner's lips so that they're warm, and then gently blow on them. The sudden cold blast make for a sensual explosion, and they will often try it on you next, as well as get very fervent.
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why are we such bad flirts?

by Piper Weiss, Shine Staff

This may look like flirting to us, but it's reading to guys like she has an eye infection. (ThinkStock Photos)

A new global study found that American women are among some of the world's worst flirts. The social networking site Badoo compiled over 90 million romantic connections, to discover State-side ladies had the lowest track record for flirting, second only to Ecuadorian women.

How can this be? We've devoted a sector of the publishing industry to the laws of attraction. We created the term 'sexpert.' We've got relationship gurus, countless magazine articles, and few television series  all dedicated to the fine art of flirting. And still, we're coming up short.

Perhaps that over-analyzation is the problem. We get lost in too much advice, and end up thinking we're flirting when we're not. Dating blogger Carley Spindel suggests that our micro-managed approaches to wooing the opposite sex end up sending arbitrary messages. Take body language. Lots of love experts suggest leg crossing, twisting your hair, leaning your shoulders in. But Spindel says, the actions are "difficult for men to understand." The only thing they really pick up on is the touch. It's so simple, but it's not nearly employed as frequently.

And if you're communicating online, it's impossible. But we're not good at online flirting either. Spindel notes that subtle attempts to communicate barely make an impact. Guys need more than just a wall post, an email with a link or a Facebook "like" tag to get the picture.

So what does work? Ask Spanish women. They ranked the most flirtatious in the Badoo study. Their tactic is simple: make the first move. According to the research, they were most likely to reach out to a prospective guy, and follow up by requesting a date.

It goes against every our mothers and the bestselling book, The Rules, taught us. Both clearly stipulate playing hard to get is key to romantic success. Turn down date requests, ignore phone calls and above all never ever make the first move, they dictate. But in today's online dating world, the same rules don't seem to apply.

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