Friday, December 31, 2010

make the most of 'dead time' and boost your career

While you’re stuck in traffic or in a line at the airport or department store, don’t just grumble about what a waste of time it all is...do something constructive--it could even boost your career!
Never get in the car or onto the train without having at least one book or magazine with you, or your laptop. If you get delayed or stuck in traffic, you can catch up on current events, read an e-book, write a report for your boss, improve your knowledge about an important area of your business, or learn something new that may help you on the job.
If you have a DVD or cassette player in your car, or have a portable one, you could listen to audiobooks (find career-related books with the Resources link on our site) or learn a foreign language while driving, riding, or just sitting still on the freeway.
If you’re in a store or other busy place, get to know the people around you. Be pleasant—don’t gripe about the slow service. Practice your 30-second commercial or general small talk skills. You wouldn’t be the first person to meet a potentially valuable contact in a seemingly obscure place, so don’t discount even the fellow in tattered jeans...he could be your next boss!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

organizing for success: create systems to de-stress your life

When you’re out on your own with a million-and-one things to do each week, how in the world can you keep them all straight and not forget things? What I’ve figured out in a couple decades of trying to keep track of those million-and-one things is that if I don’t have a system for it, it gets forgotten. If you can put systems in place for everything you do, it takes a lot of the stress out of life, saving yourself hassle, embarrassment, and maybe even your job. Let me quickly show you how.
First, get out a batch of index cards and write down all the things you do on a regular basis, one per card—things like getting ready for work in the morning, taking clothes to the drycleaner, picking up and returning rented movies, grocery shopping, cleaning the kitchen (you do clean the kitchen, don’t you?) and the rest of your apartment or house. You may not realize it until you start writing them down, but you have a lot of things you do over and over again, day in and day out, week after week, month after month.
Next, go through your stack of cards one at a time and write down the different parts of that activity. For cleaning the kitchen, for instance, you have a sink and dishes to clean, countertops to wipe down, a floor to mop, and so on. Do this on each card—some will have a lot more steps than others, but try to think of every part, every step of the activity. If you've just started working after years of being in school, it may sound silly, but creating a card for getting ready for work in the morning could help you avoid embarassment, or worse--do you have parts to a uniform you need to make sure you have on? do you want to wear earrings to complete your outfit, but forget too often? are there items you need to take with you each day? Write all this down on your card and, as long as you refer to it, you'll never forget again.
If you want, you can stop right there and put your cards in a card box. When it’s time to take care of one of those activities, like clean the bathroom, pull the card out to remind you of the steps you need to take so you don’t forget one in your haste to get the nasty chore done.
But if you really want to systematize your life, you can assign a timeframe for each card—once a week on the ‘clean the bathroom’ card; twice a month on the ‘drycleaning’ card. It helps even more if you choose a day of the week to do that activity: every Thursday for the bathroom; every Tuesday for the kitchen; every other Monday for the drycleaning. Then if you put tabbed dividers in your card box labeled with the days of the week, you can just pull out the cards you’ll need at the beginning of each day, then return them to the box once the activity has been taken care of.
The last thing you can do to maximize the stress-relieving effects of your system is to assign a place for the tools or items you need for each of the activities on your card. For instance, reserve a space under the bathroom sink for a basket or bucket filled with all the cleaning products, rubber gloves, sponges, etc. you need for that chore. For your drycleaning, get a large basket or drawstring bag and keep it in your closet or bedroom and put only clothes needing to be drycleaned in it. Then, on drycleaning day, all you need to do is grab the basket or bag and off you go—no searching around for the items you need to take.
Assigning a place for each activity is particularly important if you tend to bring work home with you. Get a desk organizer or at least an in-box type of basket and keep it near the area where you sit to do that work, or have a special spot in that area to put your briefcase. Don’t take the work out of your briefcase until you’re actually ready to deal with it, and return it to the basket or briefcase immediately after finishing. If you allow yourself to spread work papers around the living room, it may be just a matter of time before you end up standing in front of your boss struggling to find that one page of your report which ended up getting kicked under your sofa.
It takes some work to get your systems thought out and set up, but the time, the hassle, maybe the embarrassment they will save you more than makes up for it. December is a great time for making a resolution to get more organized and reap the benefits—so do it now!

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

play it smart - a guide to positive youth interaction with police

Young people often become entangled with the juvenile justice system due to an encounter with police turning into a bad situation for both the young person and the officer. To reduce the likelihood that a young person will be arrested, we developed this guide for youth to learn about their rights and how to effectively interact with police. This guide balances the officer's need to feel that the young person does not present a physical threat to the officer and the rights guaranteed under the United States Constitution.
Your Rights
You have the right to remain silent, you do not have to talk to the police. You may ask for a lawyer at any time. If you are a minor, you should ask for your parent. If you ask for a lawyer the police must stop talking to you until the lawyer is present. It is a smart idea to answer simple questions such as your name, your school and your address to show the police you are not dangerous.
Safety -- The Cardinal Rule with Police Encounters
Play it Smart.
Police can arrest people they believe are dangerous. If you are doing some-thing that looks dangerous you could cause a police stop or a police arrest. When in doubt about whether something is a "good idea" or whether some behavior is dangerous, play it smart and don't do it.
Be with Safe People.
Spend time with people you know have good reputations. Even if you have done nothing wrong, hanging out with people who have reputations as trouble makers, thieves or bullies can lead the police think you are a trouble maker too. Many youths get arrested exactly because they were with the wrong crowd or a crowd with a reputation for being dangerous.
Use Safe Words.
Abusive comments invite trouble. Bad language and bad manners can feel cool and powerful but bad words are seen as "fighting words". `When someone talks "trash" it makes people want to fight. Bad language tells the police you don't respect them and tells them you might be dangerous.
Make the police feel safe.
If you come in contact with police, do not treat them as an enemy. Being a police officer is hard work. Many officers are killed or injured every year and so they are concerned about safety. They have safety rules to follow. At first the police may seem rude and unfriendly. But until they feel safe with you they are worried about what you may do to them. Polite words, respect and eye contact all help make an officer feel safe around you.
Keep a safe distance during an arrest of another.
If you see the police stopping or arresting another person do not interfere. Even if you believe the arrest is wrong or unfair, you must not interfere or you can also be arrested. The police arrest people they believe are dangerous. If you interfere, yell or use abusive language the police will believe you are dangerous too. If you feel the arrest was wrong make yourself a witness and go to court with the arrested person.
Smart Things to do When You are Stopped by the Police
Innocent people are stopped by the police and sometimes they get embarrassed or angry. Although the stop may seem wrong or unfair, the police believe they have a reason to stop and talk with you. Sometimes they just want to know if you are a witness to a crime or if you know about something suspicious. Sometimes they stop you because some other person reported something suspicious about you or someone who looks like you.
If you are stopped follow these rules:
Stay calm.
Even if you feel it’s unfair to be stopped by the police, stay calm, quiet and polite. Do not do or say threatening things. A bad attitude will make police believe you are dangerous.
Stay still.
Walking, moving around or running away will make police think you are dangerous.
Stay patient.
Even a traffic ticket can take 20 minutes or more before you are free to leave. During this time the police usually tell you nothing. It is easy to get embarrassed and angry but anger will only make the police believe you are dangerous.
Show hands.
Hidden hands or moving hands will make the police believe you have something dangerous in your hands.Smart Things to do When You are Frisked by the PoliceThe law allows police to frisk you. “Frisk” means the police can place their hands on your body and pat you down on top of your clothes if they have reason to believe you have a weapon. If the police feel something that could be a weapon or that they recognize as drugs, the police can go into your pockets and search. Even if the police are wrong, the law allows this pat down and search if the police have reasons to believe you have drugs or weapons. If the police stop you and want to frisk you follow these rules:
  • Do not resist this pat down.
  • Stay still. Stay calm. Stay patient.
  • Do not touch the officer in any way.
Smart Things to do When Stopped in a CarSlow down and pull over to the side of the road when it is safe to do so. If you speed up the police will believe you are dangerous. If you try to run away, the police will believe you are dangerous and you can be arrested.
If you are unsure whether the car is a police car or not, drive slowly and pull over to a public place with good lighting and stop.
STAY IN YOUR SEAT!Moving around, changing seats or getting out of the car will make the police believe you are dangerous.
Keep your hands on the steering wheel if you are the driver. Keep your hands open and on your lap if you are a passenger. Hidden hands will make the police think you are holding something dangerous. If it is dark, turn on the inside car light. Do not get out of the car unless the police ask you to do so.
Give the police your driver’s license and car registration if you are asked. If your license and registration are in a pocket, glove compartment or other hidden area, tell the police. Then slowly get the papers out for the police to see. If you move too quickly towards a hidden compartment the police will worry something dangerous is in the compartment.
The police may want to search your car. If you do not want them to search your car tell them “no” in a polite manner. The police may search your car anyway. If they do, this is not the time to argue about it.
Most officers will tell you why they stopped your car if they are going to give you a ticket. If you want to explain something to the officers do so politely before the officer writes the ticket. Once a ticket is written it cannot be changed or thrown away.
If the officer gives you a ticket, sign it. Signing a ticket does not mean you are guilty. If you are not guilty go to traffic court and present your case to a judge. If you do not sign the ticket you can be arrested.
If the officer does not tell you why the officer stopped you and does not write a ticket, it may mean the officer has reasons to believe you or other passengers in the car were involved in a crime. Stay calm, still and patient while the officer investigates. You do not have to talk. You may want to answer simple questions such as your name, address and where you are going to show the officer you are not dangerous.
Smart Things to do When a Police Officer Comes to Your House

If a police officer comes to your house follow these rules:Make sure the person at your door is really an officer and look for a badge or ask for identification. Be polite but serious.
Find out politely why the officers are at your house by asking "How can I help you?"
If you are a minor, get a grown-up right away if possible.
If the police want to enter your house, you have the right to tell the police that they cannot enter unless they have a warrant or are chasing a person and the person is in your home. (A warrant is a piece of paper signed by a judge saying that it is okay for the police to enter your home. Make sure the address is correct on the warrant.)
The police may want to ask questions of you or someone who lives in your house so they can investigate or solve a crime. If you want to help them you can speak to them outside or, if you want to, you can invite them into your home. Make sure the person is really an officer and look for a badge or ask for identification. Be polite but serious.
Smart Things to do When Arrested
Ask to lock your car or home.
Obey the police officer. Do not resist or touch the officer.
Do not talk. Stay calm, still and patient.
Do not give statements about your arrest without your lawyer, and if you are a minor ask for your parent or family member right away.
Right away, ask to telephone a lawyer before you talk to anyone else. If you do not know a lawyer you can call the Public Defender's Office and speak to one of their lawyers. You have a right to talk to a lawyer after you are arrested.
Ask to telephone your parents or other family member and a lawyer right away. If you do not know a lawyer you can call the Public Defender’s Office and speak to one of their lawyers. You have a right to talk to a lawyer after you are arrested.
If you speak on the phone to your lawyer you have the right to talk without anyone listening. If the police will not leave you alone to talk by yourself, simply tell your lawyer where you are and talk about nothing else.
Police Misconduct
If you feel you or someone you know has been mistreated by the police, do not fight the mistreatment on the street. Pay attention to the officers, their words, their actions, their names and badge numbers and report the mistreatment to the police supervisors. If you are a minor, call a trusted grown-up. If you are afraid or don't know how to report the police, call a lawyer or state attorney's office.
Examples of police misconduct:Slaps, kicks, chokes, punches, flashlight hits or nightstick hits are wrong and illegal when used against a person who is not resisting or fighting in any way. These actions must be reported.
Name calling, “trash” language or racial and ethnic slurs are wrong and should be reported.
Source:
www.pdmiami.com

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

smart things to do before and after an interview

SMART THINGS TO DO AT THE BEGINNING OF A JOB INTERVIEW
How you conduct yourself just before a job interview can determine how well the interview will go and if you are hired. Be sure to do the following at the beginning of each and every job interview:
1. Arrive about 15 minutes early.
2. Always present a pleasant and confident attitude. Be friendly, positive and business-like with everyone, including the receptionist.
3. Always give the interviewer a firm handshake. Wait until you are offered a chair before sitting.
4. Speak clearly and audibly so that you can be understood and heard. Use correct grammar and no slang.
5. Look the interviewer directly in the eye and immediately maintain good eye contact.
SMART THINGS TO DO JUST AFTER A JOB INTERVIEW
Concluding the interview is just as important as starting.
1. Stand up, shake hands firmly with your interviewer and thank him or her by name for taking the time for your interview.
2. Tell the interviewer you are interested in the job and the company; never assume the interviewer knows you want the job.
3. Always leave knowing what happens next and with a sense of how your candidacy will be evaluated. Ask if you have provided enough information, where are they in the hiring process. Plan how you should follow up by setting a date and time for you to call the employer back.
4. Evaluate yourself after words. What was good? What needs improvement? Take notes to help you remember for the next time.
5. Always follow up with a good thank-you letter and any additional information the interviewer may have requested promptly.
Source:
www.stuser.mcdaniel.edu

Monday, December 27, 2010

i got fired - now what?

No one plans on getting let go from a job — many times the reasons are beyond your control. There are specific steps you can take, however, to guard against it ever happening to you by addressing the things that are in your control. Here are some suggestions to help you avoid a potentially unhappy situation before you're discharged, and how to get what you’re entitled to if it does happens:
Before
* If the job isn’t right for you, turn it down. Accepting a mis-matched job will do more harm than good, period. It’s certain to do irreconcilable harm to your long-term career goals. Be honest with yourself—are you really going to be able to adjust to something you don’t want to do or aren’t quite qualified for? Besides, the company will be able to find several other, very willing people to do the job; they certainly aren't investing their time and money to groom you for a future situation in a different department or field.
* Find out if the company you’re considering has a formal performance review program. If so, is it set up as a two-way street? If not, consider asking the person who would be your boss if s/he would be willing to work out goals and expectations for the job so there will be no surprises later.
* Keep written record of your daily activities. Take special note if something goes wrong (what happened? could you have corrected it? did you get enough training or direction to be able to avoid it?) and write down if you feel you exceeded your boss’ expectations of you. By having this documented, you’re prepared to debate if your performance is ever called into question.
After
* The person who does the actual firing (be it your boss, someone from human resources, or an outplacement counselor) is there to discuss it, not just do it. Ask questions and get feedback on your performance, the reason behind the action, etc.
* Firing is supposed to be the if-all-else-fails solution to a problem. If it catches you completely off-guard, get as much specific information as you can about what went wrong...and learn from it. Don’t be afraid to ask questions—just keep your cool while doing it.
* If you are planning to use your former employer as a reference, be certain that the record reflects an agreed-upon set of circumstances surrounding your dismissal to ensure that you will be correctly represented. Come to an agreement with your employer (in writing, if possible) as to exactly what will be said when future potential employers call.
* If the circumstances allow, ask for (unpaid) time to continue to use company resources to assist your job search—such as using a computer and printer to prepare your resume or using the phone to set up interviews.
But, most importantly, don't panic. Use your 'release' as an opportunity to make things even better in your life. Like many, many people, you might find that your getting fired or laid off was the best thing to happen to your career!

Sunday, December 26, 2010

cover letters than can put you in the running for your first job

Here are some quick tips to help make your cover letters grab attention in today's competitive job market:
-- never begin the letter, or any paragraph with the word “I.” Instead, describe yourself in a more useful way, like “As a senior Mechanical Engineering major at XYZ University, I am searching...”
-- the entire cover letter should be no more than three or four paragraphs long and no paragraph should be more than about five or six lines.
-- the first paragraph should be a brief introduction of yourself and the purpose of the letter. If someone referred you to this person, state that up-front for immediate attention and added credibility.
-- the second paragraph should highlight your skills and/or experience that are directly related to the job or internship you are applying for—if you have a lot of impressive experience, go ahead to three paragraphs.
-- don’t spell out details of your experience—give them the big picture and draw them into reading your resume to get the specifics. -- mention particularly impressive part-time jobs, internships, and co-ops by the company’s name and mention the particular work done.
-- in the last paragraph, state exactly what you want: a full-time job after graduation, an internship (state when, for how long, full or part time), an information interview, etc. Then close up with an appropriate action, such as “I will see you at the job fair on (date)” or “Please call at your earliest convenience to discuss...”
-- don’t mention salary.
-- always close on an appreciative tone—such as “Thank you for your time and serious consideration of my resume for (position). ”
In today’s competitive job market, don’t leave anything to chance. Use these quick tips as a checklist before sending out those cover letters in order to give yours the best chance of ending up on the top of the pile.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

don't let life 'get in the way' - manage your time for success!

If you’re living out on your own for the first time, you may have already discovered how many things can get in the way of your life, making it stressful and chaotic. You probably never realized all the ‘stuff’ going on behind the scenes when you lived at home with Mom and Dad...the bill paying, the home maintenance, the car maintenance, the food shopping, the clothes shopping, the ‘other stuff’ shopping, the trips to the drycleaner, the checkbook balancing, the cooking, the cleaning, the mending, the yard work, the run to the post office, the hour spent on hold trying to straighten out a problem with a credit card, the researching to find the best deal...the list goes on and on. How’s a person supposed to keep up with all that and stay sane these days?
A great place to start is with a planning book. You see businesspeople carrying them everywhere—they’re guarded like treasure. “My whole life is in that book!” they’ll say. They’re right…and they’re smart. There is way too much going on in most people’s lives to be able to keep everything in their head. Finding a planning book that works for you and your style can make a huge improvement to your confidence in dealing with all those things that ‘get in the way of life’ and even free up more time to do the things you want.
Even if your business life isn’t full enough to require a planning book, guaranteed that your personal life is. There’s the information you need to have readily available, like contact information for your landlord, your bank, the lender on your car loan, your doctors and dentist, emergency road service…plus sensitive information like your credit card numbers, even numbers for grocery stores, libraries, organizations you’re a member of, and clubs…you’ll want to keep the phone and cell numbers of your friends and business associates handy…a place for keeping the business cards you collect as you meet people through work will come in real handy, too.
Each planning book is a little different in the types of pages available for recording this kind of information, and they usually have several different scheduling pages to choose from—whether you need to see only one day at a time and have lots of room for notes, or want to see a week or even a full month on a two-page spread. Think carefully about what you do at work, the kinds of activities you’re involved in outside of work, how many appointments or events you usually have to keep track of, and how much room you want for adding notes as you go along.
Once you’ve found a book you think will fit your lifestyle, start using it! Collect all the contact information you’d like to have at your fingertips and get it recorded in there. Do you already have meetings, appointments, events, or special dates that you know of? Get those written down on the proper dates along with any notes to help jog your memory about what the appointment is for, directions on how to get there, or maybe what you need to take to the meeting.
The more you write down, the less you need to remember. Doctors say that the best way to improve your memory is to memorize things, but in this hectic world, I’ve found that the less I need to ‘think’ about things, the better. I write it down and purge it from the gray matter. When the time comes, all the information I need is right there in the book. As your life gets crowded, too, you’ll realize what a lifesaver a book like this can be.
Remember those goals you took the time to think about and write down last month? (You did do it, didn’t you? If not, take a look at the Career article in our Dose of Reality™ e-newsletter, or search ezinearticles.com for Expert Author, Kathryn Marion, for some major motivation.) Make a photocopy of your goals lists (shrink them down on a copy machine, if you have to) and keep them in your planning book. That way you have them right there to help you figure out what to do with some unexpected spare time (hint: make some progress toward one of your goals; don’t waste it reading a comic book!) or to remind you that you’re saving money for something special so this ‘great deal’ that just plopped in your lap will only derail that goal.
Do you see why so many people say “my whole life is in that book”? Don’t wait until you miss an important meeting for work, or get charged for missing a doctor’s appointment—take charge of your time and your life with a planning book now...and guard it with your life!

Friday, December 24, 2010

get yourself organized - it's now or never!

"Where’s that video I borrowed from the library last week? I need to return it today." "Ah, man. I finished that research paper on Wednesday night and it’s due this morning. Where-in-the-world is it?" Does this sound too familiar? When you were in school, it was a real pain-in-the-neck to not be able to find something in your dorm room when you needed it—and maybe the consequences of not finding what you needed weren’t too big. But imagine what could happen if the thing you can’t find is a report your boss needs first thing this morning? Your job could be on the line...all because your house (or apartment or office) is in chaos.
And if you think things are hard to find now, picture yourself a few years from now rummaging through a four-bedroom house for one small item! It’s now or never...get your home (and your life) organized, or you may never know the peace and confidence of knowing where your 'stuff' is.
To make a success of your career (and your life as a whole), you need to know which end is up, where you’re going, and...where your stuff is! When you’ve got a new career to build, you can’t waste your time trying to figure out what you’re supposed to be doing today, which meeting you’re supposed to attend tonight, or where everyday items are hiding. It’s going to take some time to get your life pulled together, but it’ll take less time now than it will if you don’t try it until five or ten years from now, so it’s worth whatever time it takes.
What you need to do before you start organizing is to simplify. It makes no sense to take your precious time to beautifully organize a bunch of stuff you don’t use, need, or want. So rather than trying to organize what you have, you need to sort through what you have and get rid of everything you don’t need, want, use, or love.
Start in your bedroom. Spend an evening going through your dresser. Touch every single thing in every single drawer. Pick it up. Look at it. Think about the last time you actually used or wore it. If it’s been a year, or longer, toss it in a box—you’ll decide later what to do with these things. Next, move to the closet and do the same thing. You may find lots of clothing items that you really like, but when you think about the last time you actually picked that item and wore it out of the house, you might realize that you don’t really use or need it...in the box it goes. If you have a bookcase, or other furniture or dumping grounds, in your bedroom, continue repeating this same exercise until you’ve touched, and made a decision about, every item in your room.
Some situations you might come across while going through your things are broken items, items missing parts (or socks missing their mates), and things that can’t even be identified. Until you get comfortable tossing unused and unloved items, you might hold on to things that you think you’ll need (or wear) sometime in the future. Face it—if you haven’t used it or worn it in a year, you’re not likely to use it or wear it again...unclench that fist and chuck it in the box.
Once you’ve pared down the stuff in your home to just the things you use, need, and love, find the most practical place for each item. Do you read in bed or on the sofa in the living room? That’s where your books and magazines should be kept. If you don’t have and can’t afford bookcases, get some baskets for keeping your reading material neat and orderly.
Obviously, kitchen items belong in the kitchen—dishes, utensils, and glasses should stay near the sink and dishwasher (if you have one), and pots and pans should be kept next to (or even in) the stove. Clothes belong either in the bedroom closet or a dresser...no piles on the floor! If you don’t have a dresser, get plastic storage boxes to keep your clothes and shoes in order and free from dust. And for paying bills or bringing work home from the office, have one designated place for those things and never lay them down anywhere else.
You get the picture—“a place for everything and everything in its place.” If you get yourself in the habit of always putting the same things back in the same places, you’ll never waste your time hunting for something you need right away...and you won’t have to make up excuses like ‘the dog ate my quarterly report.’ Simplifying and organizing your home (and your life) does nothing but good things for you, but you need to do it now...or maybe never!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

networking is key to propel you toward career success

Did you go through the goal setting exercise outlined in the August '05 Dose of Reality™? [see the end of this article for subscription information and back issues] If you did, fabulous! With your goals written down, you’re lightyears ahead of your peers. Get a load of this: A study was conducted a few years ago of graduates from a business school. Only three percent of grads had clearly articulated and written goals...but those grads earned ten times more than the 83% who had no goals at all. Even those grads who had some sense of their goals, but had not written them down, earned three times as much as those who hadn’t given goals a second thought. How’s that for motivation to get this exercise done?
Now that your goals are written down, do you think you can accomplish them all by yourself? Stop right there if you think you can. You may have impressive work experience and education, but ‘what you know’ has less to do with your future career success than ‘who you know.’ Start right now on creating an impressive network of contacts in your chosen field of work and you’ll find yourself propelled toward your goals faster than you imagined possible.
Whether you’re still in school, or looking for your first job, or already in a job, a network of contacts in your chosen field is invaluable. But don’t run out trying to meet as may people as you can…you need to get yourself prepared first. Get a three-ring binder with forms you’ve created for tracking all the important information you’ll keep about each person you meet. It will be invaluable to you for decades to come. Next, practice name/face memorization tricks if you’re not proficient in this very important networking skill. And if you’re not already up-to-date on information in your field(s) of interest, go to the library or get online and read all the latest magazines and journals so you will have at least a basic understanding of what’s happening in your field. That way you won’t be caught off-guard if asked for an opinion on a hot topic.
Where to Start?
Begin with your school’s alumni association, job fairs, and on-campus recruiting events. If you’re already working full-time, start right there at your office—in your department as well as others. Join a professional association and become an active participant. Don’t just read their newsletter or sit quietly in the back of their meetings—that won’t get you anywhere.
More places to find people include the gym, community groups, volunteer organizations, and your own neighborhood. Personal and professional contacts can be made just about anywhere. Regard every situation and every person you meet as being valuable—the most valuable contacts are often made in the most surprising places. CareerBuilder even has an online service to help get you in touch with people in your field, and Monster has good articles on networking to help you get started. [see the link at the end of this article for the fastest way to these great sites]
Start your networking notebook by entering friends, teachers, previous employers or internship sponsors, counselors, alumni, parents’ friends, your family doctor, your mechanic—everyone you know! For each person, write down their full name, company, title, job description (to the best of your ability—you don’t need to be terribly detailed), addresses, phone numbers, and email addresses, hobbies and special interests—basically, everything you know about them.
How to Meet People
At your professional association, join a committee, help with a fundraiser, or work at the hospitality desk at meetings—it’s a great way to meet lots of people while you gain experience. As the ‘new kid on the block’ you have an advantage at these events. Strike up conversations by asking established members questions about the organization, their events and member services, and volunteer opportunities. You don’t have to be a master of small talk, just curious. You don’t have to be good at small talk, just at asking questions. Ask people about what their company does, what their role is, why they came to this particular meeting (what about the topic interested them most?).
Offer information when you can, but avoid sounding like a know-it-all. You want your name to come to people’s minds when they need information or a person to fill a job with your skills. Let them know what you’re capable of—without becoming a blatant commercial for yourself.
Did you read an article on the meeting topic lately or write a paper about it? Have you done some research that your conversation partner might be interested in? Do you know how to solve the computer problem they complained of? Offer your opinions, insights, information, even advice (if you feel qualified to do so). It could lead to something bigger.
Keeping In Touch
Each time you contact any of the people in your notebook in any way (including a ‘chance’ meeting at a restaurant), write down the date, place, and topics you discussed. Also make note of any promises you made to them or items you need to follow up. Every two or three months, list those people you have not contacted lately. Find different ways of reconnecting with them, like offering information that might help them or invite them to an association meeting.
When you read an article you feel might interest one of your contacts, let them know—send a brief note with a copy of the article. Businesspeople can be so busy that they miss items that might be a help to them—they’ll be grateful for your considerate ‘gift’ and remember you for it. If you hear of a lecture, event, or special television program which might interest a contact, send a quick note by email or snail mail letting them know it’s coming. Be sure to respect the busy schedules of your contacts—keep calls to less than five minutes, if possible.
Rather than ask for something, offer information as often as possible. “What goes around, comes around.” You’ll be on the receiving end at some point, but right now, give, give, give.
Source:
www.ezinearticles.com

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

feast on the hors d'oeuvre tonight

Blokes do tend to rush through foreplay, like a hungry diner wolfing down his starter. But what if there’s no main course?
Biology dictates that there will be times when penetrative sex is a no-no. If you don’t understand why, ask your dad or get a book from the library. Or perhaps you’re just concerned that your lovemaking has become a bit routine. Happily, snogging in the full knowledge that copulation is off the menu can be loads of fun – and it can earn you points.
That’s because you’ll be seen as the caring man who actually fancies his partner for all of her, not just her crotch and nipples. A novel concept, but hang on it.
There are also some therapists – not sadists – that recommend abstaining from full-blown intercourse for some time if sex in your relationship has grown a little stale or predictable. This might seem like trying to cure starvation by fasting, but they recommend it. In this piece we’d like to suggest a platter of hors d’oeuvres instead.
Obviously the mood needs to be set. If you’ve just been working on restoring your classic MG, get busy with the hand cleaner and nailbrush before even shaking hands with your partner. The usual precautions apply: if you owe her or members of her family large amounts of money, if you have halitosis or she’s discovered her sister’s underwear in the back of your car, don’t expect her to melt at your touch.
Let’s assume you’re free of any of these pitfalls and move on swiftly:- Never underestimate the power of taste and smell. Feeding each other strawberries and chocolate sauce sounds clichéd, but it’s also an emphatically sexy way of getting up close and personal.
- Aromatherapy burners with essential oils work well. Go for subtle scents like sandalwood and pine.
- Try one of The Body Shop’s sensual massage oils. Their Body Butter will make things slippery and tactile – is this a problem?
- A while back, we wrote on the oft-overlooked pleasure of kissing (
Rediscover the lost art of kissing ) Brush up on that advice and then supplement it with this stuff. Briefly, the mouth is an amazing device that combines friction with lubrication, heat with coolness (Blowing on wet skin can make gooseflesh appear in all the right places), and the rough with the smooth.
- Using this handy little device around your partner’s ears, neck and throat might elicit squeaks and sighs. Monitor her reactions and don’t tickle her too much. This is supposed to be making out, not primary school.
- Don’t move on from the ears just yet. The lobes warrant some gentle rubbing and the edges are very sensitive.
- Kiss the small of her back, her buttocks or behind her knees. Or give them a rub with some massage oil.
- Pay attention to her neck and throat, and to the skin just above the collarbones (or clavicles if she’s a medical student). Instead of diving for the breasts, brush the backs of your fingers across her nipples, but kiss the skin all around the breasts, especially just underneath them.
- Touching her hips and the skin just inside the hipbones will get a response and anywhere downward towards her vagina is teeming with nerve endings.
At this point you might both be debating whether to have the main course after all. That’s up to you two. Oral sex or mutual masturbation can be loads of fun, as you may already know. Bringing each other to climax with your hands while staring deep into each other’s eyes might turn out to be the most erotic event you’ve shared in some time.
- (William Smook, Health24)

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

do you have the aptitude for that? get tested to steer you in the right direction

“Face it; you’re never going to be a singer or musician. Just keep your singing in the shower.” Audiences the world over are rejoicing that I took the advice of that test administrator! But after coming to the hard realization that I had no future in music, the counselor who reviewed my test scores with me surprised me by pointing out some strengths I didn’t realize I had and making some career suggestions that I never would have considered. So even though I had ideas about what careers I thought I’d like to pursue, my direction got much clearer after meeting with that test counselor.
Aptitude testing isn’t only helpful to find out if you might have a future in the performing arts. It can pinpoint very specific types of skills that you may not even be aware you have. Maybe friends often come to you to help settle disagreements—did you realize that you were so strong in negotiation, interpersonal communications, and relationships? Your marketable skills are not just things like being able to keep financial ledgers, run computer software, or type quickly. Many less ‘tangible’ skills can be even more important to your future employer.
Getting yourself tested is an excellent way to help you find a career you’ll love, but it can also show you what you can do in a job you already have to succeed even more. It can also point out weak areas that you may be able to work on to succeed to the max in the career you’re most suited for. Testing can run the gamut from short, free online tests (but remember, you get pretty much what you pay for) to paid online testing (which is much more convenient, and not too expensive) to live testing at a counselor’s office.
I’ve scoped out some of the best (and most fun) online testing sites for you. Take a look at these sites and see what works for you. Then get tested and...take their advice. If you find a job utilizing your strongest skills, you’ll be the most successful, and the most happy, at work. And how many people these days can say they truly love their work? Be one of them!
Take a look at
http://www.educationforreality.com/resources_career.htm for all the latest finds on the Net.

Monday, December 20, 2010

holiday cheer on the cheap: 5 ways to make things fun and festive without breaking the bank

‘Tis the season to lose track of our budgets as we try to spread holiday cheer as far as possible. As you think of all the people you want to reach out and touch this month, remember that old saying, “it’s the thought that counts.” Don’t bust your budget trying to make a big impression—take a look at just five ways to make a fun and lasting impression with just a few bucks:
-- if you’re handy on your computer and have (or can get) digital pictures of some of the year’s highlights, arrange the pictures on a page as a collage. Add captions for fun descriptions. Use a festive background from a free site like http://www.grsites.com/ to jazz up your collage for a professional look. If you have the time and the inclination, you can either handwrite or print a personal greeting or tell the whole story of what you did this year. You can print and send the collages instead of cards. Or even email the collage to your friends (but be sure to size the file so you don’t overwhelm your recipients with a monstrous picture).
-- if you’re looking for the fastest, least expensive way to get your holiday message out to everyone you know, try http://www.theworldsbiggestgreetingcard.com/. For just a dollar, and in less than two minutes, you can cross a big job off your holiday to-Do list. Children especially would be thrilled to see their names on a website.
-- If you have more time than money, give it this year instead of wrapped gifts. Get a box of holiday cards that are blank inside and write your gift of time in each one: “Two nights of babysitting,” “I’ll clean your garage this spring,” you get the picture. For elderly grandparents, offering to run errands or even to just sit and talk or read with them can be the greatest gift. For a pregnant friend, having someone clean the house or cook a meal can be a godsend.
-- If you have a cell phone with free roaming, give your time to your friends and faraway family by making one call a day during the month of December. Just 15 minutes of one-on-one time with you on the phone can be a wonderful way to make someone’s day who you haven’t spent enough time with this year. Ask a lot of questions about what they’ve been up to, what they’re interested in, what they’re planning for next year—everyone loves to talk about themselves and the call can be that much more meaningful to the other person if you let them talk about things they enjoy.
-- If you’re feeling creative and want to make simple gifts with your own two hands, take a look at this site for lots of good, inexpensive ideas: http://www.newdream.org/holiday/giftideastaff.php. Most of these gifts are best for local friends or family, because the cost of carefully packaging and mailing them long distance could bust your budget.
So, with a little creativity and breaking free from the retailers’ brainwashing attempts, you can make a fabulous, fun, and festive holiday for yourself, your family, and your friends for little or no money. Cheers!

Sunday, December 19, 2010

decision-making: the 'right' way!

Why do some people end up with boring jobs living paycheck-to-paycheck while others are sitting on top of the world? Did some simply make 'bad' decisions while others got ‘lucky’? No—the difference here is goal setting and decision making.
You want to make all the 'right' decisions in your life—not only in your career, but in your personal life and in your finances as well. You can do that, but you can't wait until you're faced with a decision to begin preparing for it.
In a nutshell, the secret is this: set short- and long-term goals for your career, your money, and your personal life, then when faced with a decision, determine if it will help you fulfill or make progress toward one of those goals. If it will, do it; if it won't, don't. A well-thought-out set of career and life goals can make decision making easy for you.
To begin defining your goals, set aside several hours of quiet time (possibly over several days, if necessary) and write these headings on separate sheets of paper: Career, Money, Life (or Lifestyle). Many people's main focus is their career, so we’ll start with that.
Think of where you want your career to take you. Write it down. You may have more than one idea; write them down as well. Allow your thoughts to be ambitious, but remain realistic (for instance, if you know you can't endure a decade or more of additional education, don't plan on being a surgeon). These are your long-term goals.
The next exercise is to determine what intermediate steps must be accomplished to reach your long-term goals. If you want to be, say, president of a corporation, determine what skills a president needs—experience in finance, marketing, and operations, perhaps. There are some goals for you.
Continue working backward chronologically (from president to senior management to junior management to supervisor to team leader, for instance), listing the skills, education, and professional contacts needed to hold the positions you have listed until you find yourself listing skills, education, and contacts you currently have. Don't get bogged down in details—you should be outlining the major milestones which must be accomplished. These are your mid-term goals.
After outlining the major milestones, the final step is determining the specific actions needed to accomplish them. Write down those things which can be done in the next six months—these are your immediate goals. They might include joining a professional association or researching graduate programs. These goals develop into your daily or weekly To Do list.
Next, list those things which you intend to accomplish within the year—your short-term goals. Again, talk to counselors, network contacts, and librarians if you don't know exactly what might be involved in accomplishing a goal.
Although the example here was career goals, the same exercise should be done for your financial and lifestyle goals as well. Immediate financial goals may be to open a money market savings account and conduct research on stock mutual funds. Short-term goals may be to commit to putting $25 per month into your savings account and to join the 401(k) retirement plan with your employer.
Lifestyle goals can be trickier to define. Do you want to have a wide circle of friends who are involved in cultural activities? learn to cook like a gourmet? vacation in the Caribbean each year? marry an intelligent, active, funny person and have three children? Some of your lifestyle goals will be tied into financial goals, such as the annual vacation. Others will have mid-term and short-term goals which may include such tasks as participating in community activities, joining social clubs, or committing to an exercise plan.
You may find that you need several sessions to complete this exercise. Make the time and do it now. It is vital to your success and worth the time and effort expended. Guaranteed. To stay active in the pursuit of your goals, mark off immediate goals as you accomplish them, and develop new ones which relate to your short-term goals. As you accomplish your short-term goals, develop new ones based on your mid-term goals, and so on. Continue this process of gradually moving goals up on your lists so you are always working on a piece of a task which will propel you toward your ultimate goals.
You will find these lists invaluable as you are faced daily with decisions about your career, your money, your life. When faced with a job offer, review your career goals. Will this position help you reach one of your goals by providing requisite experience? will they pay for the education you need? does the company have opportunities for moving to another department in the future which is in line with your goals? If a job will not move you toward one or more of your goals, don't take it—even if you feel desperate for cash. If that's the case, sign up with a temporary agency instead or find a part-time job while continuing the search for the right job. You can gain experience as well as money in the process without compromising your priorities.
Has a tempting financial opportunity come your way? Analyze those financial goals. Does this 'opportunity' fit your needs or will it, instead, prevent you from realizing your goals? This is where your written goals really do their job. A lot of thought was put into defining them and you have committed yourself to accomplishing them. So you should never regret nor feel guilty about passing up an 'opportunity' that does not fit into your plan.
Car purchases often take people off the proper financial track. It sure would feel good to drive that sporty red model, wouldn't it? Not if it meant that your financial goals wouldn't be met--no vacation this year, no down payment for a house in five years. Avoid the temptation and stay on track.
Even personal relationships can benefit from your goal lists. Think about them if you find yourself getting involved with a handsome fellow whose only interest is watching sports on TV. If your true desire is to attend cultural events on a regular basis, who will attend with you? Not this fellow. Of course, that doesn't mean you can't date him, but a serious relationship with someone whose goals are far different than your own could be catastrophic in the long run.
Okay! You have your goals written and assigned to a timetable, and you use them in making decisions. You're set, right? Not so fast. What will you do if one of the planned events doesn't happen--you don't get promoted to supervisor or an unexpected car repair costs several hundred dollars? These events can prevent you from reaching your goals. Now what?
Don't wait until a roadblock is thrown in your path before planning on how to get around it. Devise a contingency plan, a Plan B. For each of your major milestones, develop an alternate set of goals which you will implement if the milestone cannot be met. This is not to say that you should devise an entirely different scenario for yourself. "If I can't move into the manufacturing department, I will never be president, so I'll open a daycare center instead" is going a bit far.
If you miss a promotion, or an opportunity you were hoping for doesn't materialize, perhaps the answer is to move to another company. Another very real possibility in today's business climate is being laid off. Your Plan B will be a guiding light for you in this situation. In searching for a new position, review your plan to determine the right place to pick up the path toward your final destination. You won't make panic-induced decisions if you have a contingency in place--keep your cool and continue to move ahead.
By always keeping your ultimate, long-term goals in mind--by using the lists and timetables you've created--you can make important decisions with confidence, knowing they are the 'right' decisions for you.

Saturday, December 18, 2010

money business

Successful business follow one major principle:
Money today
is better than
money tomorrow.

Friday, December 17, 2010

Thursday, December 16, 2010

who on earth invented these?

There are many things we use every day without giving them a second thought. But somewhere, some bright spark must have thought of them first. So who invented the following things?
Aspirin.
Aspirin was first produced commercially in 1899. it is the most common pain reliever known today. The Bayer AG, in Germany, manufactured Aspirin in powdered form. The real name of aspirin is acetylsalicylic acid was first synthesized by a chemist from Alsace, called Karl Gerhardt. But its value as a pain reliever was only recognised in 1899, and by 1915, it was available in tablet form and it gained wide usage.Glasses.
These were originally invented by an unknown Italian glass worker from Tuscany between 1280 and 1286. The first eyeglasses were suitable only for the farsighted and it was only in the 15th century that concave lenses for the near-sighted appeared. Spectacles appeared in China in the 15th century. Benjamin Franklin, who did not like carrying two pairs of glasses with him, invented bifocals in 1785.
False teeth.
The Etruscans were centuries ahead of their contemporaries in the field of dentistry. In about 700 B.C., they succeeded in making partial dentures. These early false teeth were carved from bone or ivory, or were taken from the mouths of young cattle. In the 18th century a Parisian dentist by the name of Pierre Fauchard made upper and lower sets joined with steel springs. This kept the upper set in position but gave the wearer problems when he tried to close his mouth.
Frozen food.
Until the early 1900s, ice-cooled food and drinks were a luxury only available to the very rich. But in order to keep foods frozen, a refrigeration machine had to be developed which could ensure a stabilized temperature. James Harrison, a newspaper editor, patented his own ice machine in Australia in 1857. By 1873 he had perfected his method and held a party in celebration – at which he served meat which had been frozen for six months. None of the guests noticed. In 1924 Clarence Birdseye developed quick-freezing machinery and soon formed the General Seafoods Corporation.
The safety razor.
The safety razor was invented by Jean-Jacques Perret from France and King Camp Gillette from the US. There are two components to the modern safety razor: a guard to keep the blade from piercing the skin and disposable blades. Salesmen Gillette turned shaving upside down in 1901 with his wafer-thin stamped-steel disposable blades. He had worked on the mechanics of the blade for six years. In 1903 he sold 51 razors and 168 blades, and in 1904 90,000 razors and 12,4 million blades.
(Source: The Peoples' Almanac #2: David Wallechinsky and Irving Wallace)

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

how to be the perfect girlfriend

How to be the perfect girlfriend. Since man ran naked on the veldt he has changed very little. Sure, he's harnessed fire, built the pyramids, and walked on the moon, but he's still a caveman at heart. His needs haven't really changed for thousands of years: food, beer, women. But how is this compatible with your sophisticated, modern life? It isn't! But it can be. With just a few simple tips you can be the perfect girlfriend, which should make him want to be the perfect boyfriend.
Step 1Relax your standards
The perfect girlfriend is not a plastic doll. While you should endeavour to maintain your femininity, once in a while let your guard down: eat like a pig, slouch around, or leave the washing up. You can even surprise him be getting him to pull your finger. This way he will feel comfortable in your presence, and you in his.
Step 2But make an effortWith this in mind, remember that it is important to make an effort and sometimes dress up special. We know it's not practical all the time, but he'll appreciate it, and you'll feel more attractive.
Step 3Massage his ego
Remember that the male ego is as fragile as it was all those years ago when he first lost his way back to the cave. Make your boyfriend feel good about himself - even if he is getting in your way- let him be useful and tell him he's great. Don't nag him into submission, as there is nothing sexy about a downtrodden man. You know the bed's not made properly, but congratulate him on having a go. You know that isn't an omelette, but it contains eggs doesn't it? So well done him!
Step 4Feed him
Like it or not, the old adage is true - the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. You don't have to cook, but keep your local takeaway on speed dial. Remember if your boyfriend is hungry, his attention will shift suddenly from you to the fridge. Don't take it personally, it's primal. Symptoms of hunger to look out for include: grumpiness, slightly flared nostrils or he may appear to be hunting. If he gets like this, don't suggest salad.
Step 5
Give him space
A man's friends are important to him, and so is his ability to spend time with them, where he will do male activities like growling, fighting and measuring things, simple pursuits that confuse a complex female mind. Allow him the space to maintain these relationships. Let him roam, and when he comes home he'll be ready to spend quality time with you.
Step 6Listen to him
Men enjoy explaining things. Be it the mechanics of bridges, why Sean Connery's the best Bond, or the complexities of the offside rule, even if he's being patronising allow him his airtime, and he will then shut up, leaving you to enjoy the peace and quiet of a loving and giving relationship.
Step 7
In the bedroom
When it comes to bedtime and matters of the night, your needs may be different. Sex is a simple matter for him: he wants it, whenever, wherever. Never put out if you aren't in the mood, but do accept he always will be, and don't tell him off because he finds you devastatingly attractive all of the time. And if you really don't fancy it, just distract him with beer.
Done? Have fun with your boyfriend!

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

free legal advice

A corporate attorney sent the following to the employees in his company.The next time you order checks, have only your initials (instead of first name) and last name put on them. If someone takes your check book they will not know if you sign your checks with just your initials or your first name but your bank will know how you sign your checks.
Put your work phone number on your checks instead of your home phone. If you have a PO Box use that instead of your home address. If you do not have a PO Box, use your work address. Never have your Social Security number printed on your checks. You can add it if necessary, but if you have it printed, anyone can get it.
Place the contents of your wallet on a photocopy machine. Copy both sides of each license, credit card, etc. You will know what you had in your wallet and all of the account numbers and phone numbers to call and cancel.
Keep the photocopy in a safe place. I also carry a photocopy of my passport when I travel, either here or abroad.
We've all heard horror stories about fraud that's committed on us in stealing a name, address, Social Security number, credit cards, and so on.
Unfortunately I, an attorney, have first-hand knowledge because my wallet was stolen last month. Within a week, the thieve(s) ordered an expensive monthly cell phone package, applied for a VISA credit card, had a credit line approved to buy a Gateway computer, received a PIN from DMV to change my driving record information on-line, and more.
But here's some critical information to limit the damage in case this happens to you or someone you know.
We have been told we should cancel our credit cards immediately. But the key is having the toll-free numbers and your card numbers handy so you know whom to call. Keep those where you can find them easily.
File a police report immediately in the jurisdiction where it was stolen; this proves to credit providers you were diligent, and is a first step toward an investigation (if there ever is one).
But here's what is perhaps most important (I never even thought to do this): Call the three national credit-reporting organizations immediately to place a fraud alert on your name and Social Security number. I had never heard of doing that until advised by a bank that called to tell me an application for credit was made over the Internet in my name. The alert means any company that checks your credit knows your information was stolen and they have to contact you by phone to authorize new credit.
By the time I was advised to do this, almost two weeks after the theft, all the damage had been done. There are records of all the credit checks initiated by the thieves' purchases, none of which I knew about before placing the alert. Since then, no additional damage has been done, and the thieves threw my wallet away this weekend (someone turned it in). It seems to have stopped them in their tracks.
The numbers are:Equifax: 1-800-525-6285
Experian (formerly TRW): 1-888-397-3742
Trans Union: 1-800-680-7289
Social Security Administration (fraud line): 1-800-269-0271
From Intelligencer, newsletter of San Francisco Regional Mensa (April, 2003)

Monday, December 13, 2010

when air travel goes wrong, here's how to get compensated

FOR THE PAST FOUR months, Mahesh Soori has been engaged in a slow and torturous battle with United Airlines for what he says is a well-deserved refund.
The refund stems from travel his parents endured last summer. The nightmare began halfway through a long journey from Omaha, Neb., to Colombo, Sri Lanka. During a stopover in Los Angeles — as they prepared to catch a flight to Singapore — a United Airlines agent informed them their tickets were invalid because their ticket information wasn't in the system, says Soori. Already halfway through their journey, the Sooris, who are both in their 70s, had no choice but to pay $2,860 for new tickets.
Soori soon took up the cause of getting that money back for his parents. (Because of their age, he feels he's better suited for the task.) He explained the situation in a letter to United and the airline responded that while the original reservations appeared to be in order, a computer glitch lead to the mishap. As "a gesture of goodwill," the company enclosed two $300 travel vouchers.
Soori's frustration has grown to such an extent that he now has a
blog that details every phone call and letter he's sent. He may be on the verge of success: On Wednesday, the airline offered to reimburse him for the unused portion of the original tickets if he mailed them back. Still, that may not make the tab whole — the airline has not yet offered to refund the money that the Sooris paid for the new ticket, which cost considerably more. (United Airlines says that after looking into the situation, the tickets were expired and therefore invalid. The ticketing agents in Omaha and Denver failed to notice that.)
The Sooris' case may be an extreme case of travel hell, but the numbers show that travel hassles are on the rise, thanks in part to more people flying and more checked bags because of new regulations from the Transportation Security Administration. In October 2006, airlines registered 7.51 lost-bag claims for each 1,000 passengers, up significantly from October 2002, when only 3.09 complaints were filed for each 1,000 passengers, according to Department of Transportation statistics. That's an average 20% increase in lost bags each year. Cancelled flights are also on the rise, up from 1% in October 2002 to 1.9% in October 2006. Same for late flights: 84.8% of flights landed on time in October 2001; in October 2006 that figure had dropped to 72.9%.
So what's a disgruntled passenger to do? Chances are, you can get some form of reimbursement for your lost time or money — but don't expect the airlines to volunteer it. You have to be proactive about researching your rights and an airline's policies, and then making sure the airline holds up its end of the deal. Even then, success is not guaranteed.
"The airlines do have the upper hand on the situation; they determine how much to reimburse you," says Anne Banas, executive editor of travel web site SmarterTravel.com. "So it's up to the traveler to know [his or her rights] before traveling."
Here's a guide:
Lost Luggage
The good news: The airlines do have policies about reimbursing customers for lost luggage. (Those are typically outlined in a document called "Contact of Carriage." The travel web site Airfarewatchdog.com provides links to each airline's contract here.) The bad news? There are so many exclusions to these rules that in the end, the airline can pretty much give you however much they want. "There are more loopholes than you can shake a stick at," says Tom Parsons, CEO of BestFares.com, a travel deals web site.
Consider this: If an airline loses your bags permanently, for example, you are entitled to up to $2,500 in compensation for domestic flights. (For international flights, you can be compensated up to $9 per pound of luggage.) But most airlines refuse to cover jewelry and valuables, electronics, fragile items, prescription medication, or any business-related items, such as merchandise.
Even for items you can be reimbursed for, such as clothes, you need to provide receipts. And then depreciation kicks in, where each airline determines how much of the clothes' original price you'll get back, says George Hobica, founder of
Airfarewatchdog.com.
That said, most airlines also have policies in place to reimburse passengers for necessities until they're reunited with their bags. That's typically a preset daily allowance that's negligibly small, Hobica says. Delta Air Lines, for example, offers $25 a day for up to five days of mishandled bags. It's awfully hard to put together a vacation wardrobe on that.
Other airlines, particularly European ones, can be more generous. Juergen Ritz, a Chicago-based German expatriate who travels to Germany at least once a month always flies Lufthansa because he knows they will reimburse him for 50% of the cost of clothing he buys if they lose his bags. He sends in the receipts and receives the checks within weeks, he says. That hasn't been his experience with domestic flights on U.S. airlines. "I'm surprised how much hassle it can be to deal with here," he says. "In the U.S. you don't get anything, or hardly anything. It's a totally different level of customer service."
Stranded at the Airport
So your flight was cancelled or delayed causing you to miss a connection. What can you do? First, find out what caused the problem, says Hobica. If it's a carrier-caused delay, such as a mechanical problem, you have a much better chance of getting reimbursement from the airline, such as meal or hotel vouchers, or even a full or partial refund of your ticket, he says. (Again, this is outlined in each airline's Contract of Carriage.) But with circumstances not under the airline's control — weather conditions, airport strikes, or, for that matter, any "act not reasonably foreseen" by the airline — it's up to that gate agent to fulfill your requests. In either case, the airline isn't required to compensate you in any way. (The only exception is if you're "bumped" from an oversold flight: You're entitled to up to $400.) And then it's all about being proactive. So be sure to ask for compensation.
Ritz, the German expatriate, always calls the airline's 1-800 number instead of lining up to rebook his flight with a ticketing agent. "If you have three or four agents and 500 people, the seats will be gone by the time you make the front of the line," he says. If he isn't comfortable booking by phone, he buys a day pass to the airline's airport club — typically $40 or so — where he gets to talk with an agent with no line whatsoever.
The Disgruntled Flier's Survival Kit1. Always have a copy of the airline's Contract of Carriage with you, says SmarterTravel's Banas. Vague as they are, it helps to know your rights.
2. With delayed or canceled flights, try rebooking on the phone.
3. With lost bags, fill in all paperwork on the spot and ask the airline about its reimbursement or daily allowance policy.
4. If you're packing valuables in your luggage, consider buying additional luggage coverage from the airline. It will cost you a few extra bucks — the typical charge is $6 per $100 of value — but you'll get a special sticker on your bag and chances are, it will be handled more carefully, says BestFares.com's Parsons. At Delta, you can bump your insured value up to $3,000, for example, for a $30 fee.
5. Play your status. If you have elite or higher status on an airline's frequent-flier program, be sure to mention it to the gate agents. "You might get somewhat more ambitious customer service because that identifies you as a more profitable customer," says Tim Winship, editor of the web site
FrequentFlier.com.
6. Complain. Once home, don't hesitate to write the airline about your negative experience. But be reasonable and specific with your demands, Hobica says. "If you were delayed for a couple of hours, you're not going to request 10,000 frequent-flier miles and a couple round-trip tickets." Click
here for airline customer service contacts.
7. Be persistent. "Sometimes the airlines send the most ridiculous responses," Hobica says. If you're unhappy with the response, write again and escalate your case. If you don't get results from the airline, file a service complaint with the
Aviation Consumer Protection Division (ACPD).

Sunday, December 12, 2010

how to stay alive on a motorcycle

So you're making payments on a new 1200 cc Blood Red Hog and you feel invincible.
Or maybe you own a
BMW R1100 RT, all anthracite gleam, with a CD changer and heated grips, and you wanna ride two-up cross-country when the weather's better.
Some statistics:
More than 26% of all
motorcycle accidents involve riders with less than one year's experience.
Ninety-two percent of riders involved in reportable accidents are untrained (i.e. they were self-taught or learned from friends or family).
Motorcycle riders between the ages of 16 and 24 are significantly over-represented in accidents.
Twelve percent of ALL motorcycle accidents involve
alcohol, but HALF of all the FATAL motorcycle accidents show ALCOHOL involvement..
Still wanna ride?
Good, here's to your health!
It is essential that any motorcycle rider who wants to ride safely graduate from the Motorcycle Safety Foundation's Beginning or Experienced Rider Course. This is the sort of training that is just too good to miss. When the program was introduced in California there was a 76% decrease in fatal accidents among riders under 21. The course is now
mandatory there for young riders.
Given over two weekends, the MSF course spends two days in the classroom and two days on the bike, which is provided, along with helmet and gloves.
There is a single technique that stands ahead of all tricks, tips, and smart things to do that are taught in the course. As you might imagine, this technique is also useful for anyone driving any sort of motor vehicle.
Here it is:
THE S I P D E TECHNIQUE
Scan, Identify, Predict, Decide, Execute--the mental process suggested by the Motorcycle Safety Foundation.SCAN--Always be looking. Your eyes should follow a rotational pattern including mirrors, controls, and the road ahead. Scan for potential hazards as well as opportunities.IDENTIFY--Identify the situation ahead. Hazard or opportunity? Vehicle, pedestrian, animal, or stationary object? Each category presents its own challenge to the motorcyclist.PREDICT--Anticipate the hazard or opportunity. What will be the situation by the time you get to it? Predict what might happen and visualize escape routes. This is the part of SIPDE that depends most upon your knowledge and experience.DECIDE--Make a choice from the available alternatives. Single hazard or multiple hazards? Blow your horn, flash your lights, adjust your speed (slower or faster), adjust your course--or some combination of these? What you decide depends upon the road conditions, your bike, and most important, your skill level.EXECUTE--Do it! Take the action necessary to avoid the hazard. Generally this means increasing the "envelope of safety" surrounding your motorcycle.
If you can keep the bike where the hazards aren't, a cold
beer upon your safe arrival becomes a distinct probably.
That's it. S I P D E, an acronym to live by.For the beginning or experienced RiderCourse nearest you, call 1-800-446-9227

Saturday, December 11, 2010

how to kill yourself on a motorcycle

Buy the biggest, heaviest, fastest bike you can find, especially if you've never ridden before.Teach yourself how to ride.Let your friend teach you how to ride.
Don't wear a
helmet.Don't wear leather, gloves, boots, glasses/goggles or any other sort of protective gear.Change lanes frequently without looking or signaling.Assume everybody else can see you.Assume the old lady stopped with her blinker on is not going to turn left in front of you cause she can see you too.Assume the teenager/old man/mom with a toddler in a VW/Cadillac/Suburban behind you is going to stop at the light just because you do.Never check your mirrors.Assume nobody is ever gonna back out of a driveway without looking.Turn the handlebars in the direction you wish to travel.Lane-split just because it's legal in California.
As long as you're at it, bust the double-yellow line for the
car-pool lane as often as you can.
Be sure to
flip off anybody you feel does not respect your right to behave like a maniac.
Use the maximum acceleration available to your
crotch rocket from every stop. You want to go as fast as you possibly can to the next light so you can slam on the brakes once you get there.
Never use the rear brake.
Should you mistakenly apply the rear brake and lock up the rear wheel, release the brake immediately so your rear wheel unlocks at the same time the front wheel is pointed in a direction you do not wish to go.
Do not learn the definition and prevention of a "
high-side" accident.
Apply too much brake on a wet road, especially right after it rains.
Do not learn the definition and prevention of a "
low-side" accident.
Take your
girl friend out for a ride the day you get your bike instead of waiting for a few thousand miles.
Make sure she wears her
shortest skirt so the two of you are stylin'.
Smoke your
doobie before you get on the bike, that way ashes won't blow down her blouse.
Always always always have "
one for the road." That way the two of you can be together for eternity.

Friday, December 10, 2010

how to be a good motorcycle passenger

When you take the passenger's seat on a motorcycle, it is not like sitting in a car. You actively affect the handling of the vehicle, and hence the rider's ability to control it. So, it's important to know how to be a good passenger. It's not difficult, but many people don't get it.
When riding in a straight line, it's pretty much a
no-brainer; just don't make any horrible lurching sudden moves and everything's peachy.
Things get a bit more complicated around
corners. I've found that most people tend to try to remain upright as the bike (and rider) lean into a corner. This is a Bad Thing; it profoundly changes the handling characteristics of the bike. Here's what you should do: As you approach the corner, look through to the exit of the curve, making sure you only tilt your head to stay parallel with the ground, rather than your whole body. Your torso should not move in relation to the rider's torso. I guarantee that your rider will thank you. And even if he or she doesn't, you'll definitely be safer for following this simple rule.
So far, the best passengers have been girls (like
Wintersweet and Yumi), but there is no convincing experimental evidence that suggests a sex/passenger competency correlation, as the statistical sample is yet far too small.